From the Washington Post, Joy Jones has a great piece on the decline of marriage. Ms. Jones writes of her own responsible intentions and the results:
But as a black woman, I have witnessed the outrage of girlfriends when the ex failed to show up for his weekend with the kids, and I’ve seen the disappointment of children who missed having a dad around. Having enjoyed a close relationship with my own father, I made a conscious decision that I wanted a husband, not a live-in boyfriend and not a “baby’s daddy,” when it came my time to mate and marry. My time never came.
She writes of a classroom experience where she was teaching a group of 6th graders about Career Exploration. She saw so many boys interested in being a good father, she offered to bring in married couples to talk about being married and she got this response:
“Oh, no,” objected one student. “We’re not interested in the part about marriage. Only about how to be good fathers.”
And that’s when the other boy chimed in, speaking as if the words left a nasty taste in his mouth: “Marriage is for white people.”
He’s right. At least statistically. The marriage rate for African Americans has been dropping since the 1960s, and today, we have the lowest marriage rate of any racial group in the United States. In 2001, according to the U.S. Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.9 percent of black women in America had never been married, in contrast to 27.4 percent and 20.7 percent respectively for whites…I was stunned to learn that a black child was more likely to grow up living with both parents during slavery days than he or she is today, according to sociologist Andrew J. Cherlin.
Jones then goes on to given a pretty good explanation of why these marriages aren’t happening. Essentially, according to Jones, Black Women are looking to get married in their 20s, while Black Men aren’t interested in it. By the time Black men realize the benefits of marriage, many Black Women aren’t looking anymore, as they’re not interested in committing to someone who brings a pretty sorted past–and not much else into a marriage.
As Ms. Jones hit on, this isn’t just a racial problem. The percentage of White households headed by two parents has gone from 91% to 80%.
What’s happened has been a serial disrespect for marriage. As marriages are dissolved for light and transient causes and others choose together without marriage, the concept of marriage has been torn down to the point that while those boys in the classroom see a need to be good fathers, they don’t understand that the best thing they can do is to provide their children intact homes with both a mother and father present.
This attitude will continue to multiply as long as we as society wink at quicky marriages, no-fault divorces, and cohabitation. And its not helped by the idea that marriage exists as an equal opportunity grant of tax deductions.
Our Social Engineers have greatly bungled their attempts to redesign our society. Their result has been a society and culture that despite all the new found “freedom” is much less happy, safe, and secure than previous ones.
When can a social experiment be said to have failed? How many children in broken homes will it take for some to realize we’ve gone too far? How long until the church wakes up and takes this issue seriously?
Willisms has some more statistics on this issue and I reccomend his post on this.